Sunday, July 26, 2026

ફરી મળીશું, વડોદરા | We Shall Meet Again, Vadodara

"Every city has thousands of stories. Mine was fortunate enough to be told through a young man who arrived with a suitcase, a promotion letter, and no idea that I was about to become home."

My name is Vadodara.

For centuries, I have welcomed kings, artists, dreamers, students, pilgrims and wanderers. Some stayed for generations. Some stayed only for a few days. Most left quietly, taking a few memories with them.

But every once in a while, someone arrives whom I know I must keep a little longer, not by holding on to them, but by giving them reasons to come back.

On the morning of 29th December 2023, another such traveller arrived.

His name was Ankit.

He stepped into me carrying a suitcase in one hand and a promotion order in the other. Excitement hid behind his smile, while uncertainty quietly occupied the corners of his mind.

He thought he had come because of work. I smiled. "Let's not tell him the whole story just yet."

Like every newcomer, he wanted to understand me quickly. So I decided not to introduce my people first. I introduced my oldest storytellers.

The magnificent Laxmi Vilas Palace stood proudly at the entrance to our friendship.

It looked at Ankit and chuckled. "People usually stare at me for photographs," the palace said. "I prefer watching people instead."

Its walls had witnessed empires rise and fall. It had seen countless visitors, yet it welcomed every new face with the same quiet dignity.

A little further stood Mandvi Gate. Unlike the palace, Mandvi was never interested in impressing anyone. "History doesn't always live inside museums," it laughed. "Sometimes it buys vegetables, argues over auto fares and walks to work every morning."

Ankit smiled. He was beginning to understand me. That evening I introduced him to my philosopher.

His name was Sursagar. The first time Ankit visited, he simply stood there, watching the reflections dance across the water while Lord Shiva overlooked the city with timeless calm.

Sursagar didn't speak much that evening. Good listeners rarely do. Instead, it made a silent promise. "Whenever life becomes noisy, come sit beside me."

He kept coming back. After long office days. After peaceful days. After difficult ones.

Sometimes with thoughts. Sometimes without them. Families laughed around him. Children chased pigeons. College students clicked endless photographs. Street vendors announced their presence with familiar enthusiasm.

Life continued. And somewhere in the middle of all that life, Ankit found peace.

People often believe cities heal them through grand experiences. They're wrong. Cities heal through familiar places that quietly wait for you every evening.

Soon Saturdays found a new purpose.

Before sunrise painted my skies orange, Sayajibaug would already be awake. It had the personality of a strict but caring coach. "Late again?" it would tease. "Run another lap."

Some mornings Ankit ran quickly. Some mornings he merely shuffled along. Sayajibaug never judged. It knew something many humans forget. Discipline is not built on extraordinary days. It is built on ordinary Saturdays when nobody is watching. The peacocks became spectators. The trees became cheerleaders. The pathways quietly applauded every completed lap. Weeks turned into months. Without noticing, running stopped being exercise. It became conversation. Every Saturday morning, Sayajibaug asked the same question. "Did you come back?" And every Saturday morning, Ankit answered without saying a word. "Yes."

Sunday mornings belonged to another old soul.

Kashi Vishwanath Mandir.

Unlike Sayajibaug, the temple never challenged anyone. It simply embraced them. The bells echoed softly through the morning air. The fragrance of incense welcomed everyone equally. There were no speeches. No deadlines. No presentations. Only silence. People often think silence means emptiness. Kashi Vishwanath knew better. Silence is where gratitude finds its voice. Before every new week began, Ankit left a little lighter than he had arrived.

And that was enough. As months passed, I realised something. He had stopped exploring me. He had started belonging to me. His calendar slowly transformed into traditions. Saturday mornings belonged to Sayajibaug. Sunday mornings belonged to Kashi Vishwanath. Thursday evenings found him at Shreemannarayan Mandir, and almost every Thursday ended exactly where many beautiful evenings did. Beside Sursagar. my philosopher never minded repeat visitors. In fact, I think it secretly enjoyed them.

Then came 24th October 2024.

That day I decided Ankit was finally ready to meet my greatest explorer.

His Activa. It rolled into his life with the confidence of an old friend. "Enough city roads," it laughed. "Let's discover everything else." From that day onward, weekends acquired a different rhythm. Maps became suggestions. Roads became invitations. The destination no longer mattered. The journey did.

Their first memorable ride together led them to Dakor. The highways stretched endlessly ahead while the city slowly disappeared behind them. Neither of them spoke much. Good travelling companions rarely need to. The wind handled most of the conversation.

Once Dakor welcomed them, the rest of my sacred family grew curious.

Poicha Nilkanth Dham greeted him with serenity.
EME Mandir proudly reminded him that faith can unite what differences often divide. Tapovan Mandir invited him to pause.
Haridham Sokhda offered warmth.
Kayavarohan unfolded stories centuries older than either of them.
The Navnath Mandirs quietly whispered legends hidden from hurried travellers.

Every temple had its own personality. None competed. Each simply added another verse to the same song. Ankit eventually realised something profound. Faith doesn't always change destinations. Sometimes it simply changes the traveller.

One breezy evening I introduced him to an artist. Sculpture Park.

Unlike my other friends, Sculpture Park never hurried conversations. The breeze danced lazily through the trees. Art stood perfectly still. Occasionally an aircraft soared overhead from the nearby airport. Sculpture Park smiled every time that happened. "Look carefully," it whispered. "Life is always asking you to choose between standing still long enough to appreciate beauty and flying far enough to discover new ones."

Ankit never answered. He simply returned another evening. And another.

There were nights when neither temples nor parks nor lakes were enough. Those nights belonged to Akota Bridge and Atal Bridge. The two old companions had mastered the art of listening. Ankit often rode across them with no destination in mind. Sometimes music accompanied him. Sometimes only the wind. The bridges never interrupted. They knew that certain conversations happen only between a person and an empty road. Dreams were dreamt there. Doubts were questioned there. Many decisions quietly crossed those bridges long before they crossed anyone's lips.

Then came another old friend whom I had deliberately saved for later.

Maharaja Sayajirao University. MSU had always been patient. "Dreams don't mind waiting," it told me years earlier. "They only ask whether the dreamer is willing to keep walking." Office during the day. Assignments at night. Examinations, sometimes with fever and body ache. Projects. Deadlines. Fatigue. Hope.

There were days when Ankit wondered whether balancing everything was worth it. MSU simply smiled. "One lecture at a time." Years later, when the degree was finally in his hands, there were no fireworks. No dramatic music. Only a quiet conversation between a dream and the dreamer. "You kept your promise." Sometimes life's greatest victories don't arrive with applause. They arrive with peace.

By then, something had quietly changed. Ankit no longer introduced himself by saying,

"I'm posted in Vadodara." Without realising it, he had begun saying, "I'm in Vadodara."

There is a difference. One sentence describes a location. The other describes belonging.

And that is when I knew, the stranger who had arrived with a suitcase was no longer merely living within my boundaries. He had become one of my own.

Just when Ankit thought he had met all of my finest characters, I smiled. "You've only met my places," I told him. "Now it's time to meet my people."

Because the truth is, Cities are never remembered because of their roads. They are remembered because of the people who walk beside us on those roads.

Then, I decided it was time to show him how I celebrate life.

First came Ganeshotsav. The streets echoed with devotion. The drums carried excitement through every corner of the city. Lord Ganesha arrived not merely as a deity. But as a guest every family eagerly awaited. Ankit stood quietly watching the celebrations. Ganeshotsav looked at him and laughed. "You're not watching anymore," it said. "You're celebrating with us."

Soon after came my favourite season. Navratri.

If someone ever asked me what my heartbeat sounds like. I would simply ask them to spend one evening in Vadodara during Navratri. The colourful chaniyas. The rhythmic claps. The endless circles of Garba. Music floating through the night. Thousands of strangers moving together like one family. Navratri looked at Ankit and playfully challenged him.

"Forget perfection," it laughed. "Just dance." And somewhere between missed steps and smiling faces. He understood that joy never asks whether you're good enough. It only asks whether you're willing to join.

Then arrived Diwali. Every street decided to wear its brightest smile. Lights adorned homes. Markets glowed. The evenings sparkled. Even the air felt happier. Diwali gently whispered, "Some festivals illuminate houses. The best ones illuminate hearts."

There were quieter companions too. The cafés. Ah, my cafés. They never demanded attention. They simply welcomed conversations. Some afternoons they hosted laughter. Some evenings they listened to silence. Some cups of coffee celebrated achievements. Others comforted difficult days. Every table quietly collected stories that never appeared on social media. Sometimes friendships become stronger over coffee than they ever could over ceremonies. The cafés knew that secret well.

Then came another pilgrimage.

Pavagadh.

Unlike the peaceful temples that welcomed him with calmness, Pavagadh believed every blessing should be earned. Each step carried effort. Each turn carried anticipation. Every climb quietly asked, "How badly do you seek what lies above?" When he finally reached the summit, Pavagadh smiled. "The view," it said, "always belongs to those willing to climb.

By now, I had introduced Ankit to my monuments, but I had deliberately saved my greatest gift for the very end. My people.

Because places become memorable. People make them unforgettable. When Ankit first arrived, he and his mother were far away from the comfort of familiarity.

New city. New surroundings. New routines. Yet something beautiful happened. People stopped treating them like newcomers. Neighbours became family. Colleagues became companions. Toastmasters became friends. Friends became brothers and sisters. Invitations arrived without formality. Festivals were celebrated together. Meals were shared. Laughter echoed freely.

Someone always remembered to ask, "Aunty kem cho?" And someone always made sure no celebration ever felt incomplete. Ankit often thanked people individually.

I smiled. Because I knew they were simply being themselves. That is who my people are. They don't merely welcome you into the city. They quietly make room for you in their lives.

And perhaps the happiest part of my story was this. It wasn't just Ankit who found a home.

His mother did too. Watching her smile, Watching her build her own circle of warmth, Watching her feel cared for. I quietly told myself, "Now they truly belong here."

There is a saying that home is where the heart is. I disagree. Home is where someone waits to ask if you've reached safely. Home is where your mother smiles without feeling like a stranger. Home is where people stop calling you a guest. That was the gift my people gave him. And that, more than anything else, made me proud.

But stories, however beautiful, must eventually turn a page. The day came when boxes slowly replaced routines. The calendar quietly announced that another transfer awaited. Even before Ankit said anything, my oldest friends somehow knew.

His motorcycle looked at him one final Sunday morning. "One last ride?" He smiled. They rode towards Dakor once again. This time, the skies opened. Rain accompanied them almost the entire journey. The roads shimmered. The visor fogged. Neither of them complained. Sometimes rain understands farewells better than sunshine ever could. It wasn't trying to spoil the ride. It was making sure the memory would never fade.

A few days later, another familiar friend waited. Sayajibaug. It, too, had chosen rain for their final meeting. The pathways were wet. The trees seemed greener than ever. The peacocks looked unusually majestic. There was no challenge this time. No playful reminder to run another lap. Sayajibaug simply walked beside him in silence. Old friends understand that some goodbyes don't require conversation.

The day finally arrived. The suitcase stood ready once again. Interestingly, it wasn't any bigger than the one he had brought on the first day. Yet somehow, it felt infinitely heavier.

Not because of clothes. Because of memories.

As he looked back one final time, all my characters quietly gathered. Laxmi Vilas Palace stood with quiet dignity. Mandvi Gate smiled warmly. Sursagar reflected one last sunset. Sayajibaug nodded proudly. Kashi Vishwanath offered silent blessings. The temples folded their hands. The cafés remembered unfinished conversations. Akota Bridge and Atal Bridge promised to safeguard countless late-night thoughts. The motorcycle waited patiently for another adventure.

And my people. The wonderful souls who had embraced not just him but his mother. Simply smiled. No dramatic speeches. No elaborate farewells.

Just the kind of warmth that only genuine relationships can offer. I looked at him and said,

"You came here believing this was your first promotion posting. You leave carrying friendships that no transfer order can ever take away. You thought you came here to build a career. Along the way, you built a life. You thought you were discovering my streets. In truth, you were discovering yourself."

He looked back. Not with sadness. With gratitude. Because goodbyes belong to places we never intend to visit again. I refuse to be one of those places.

So this is not my farewell. It is merely a promise. Whenever life feels heavy. Whenever you wish to sit beside Sursagar again. Whenever Saturday mornings miss their familiar rhythm. Whenever Garba music echoes somewhere unexpectedly. Whenever my people cross your mind. Know that I will still be here.

Waiting. Exactly where you left me. With open roads. Open hearts. And countless new stories.

Until then.

ફરી મળીશું, વડોદરા.

We shall meet again. <3

Saturday, August 12, 2023

The Big Three Zero

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August 8th 2023: 0000 hours.

Yes, I am officially 30. It’s finally here, my 30th birthday! Unlike the previous ‘energetic’ years, this year there were no midnight calls or surprise visits. That did a bit good to my sleep schedule as well. To be honest, I never had enough midnight oil to burn, whether study or work or play.

30 years is a long period of life, at least for me. But, do I feel that old? Thankfully, not. I am thirty. I am not married. I don’t have my own house (yes, I still live with my parents). I don’t have a car. And for fun, I don’t plan my life.

When I would picture 30-year-olds in my head they were always super mature, all grown up with their houses and their cars and their babies and all that adult stuff.

Thirty definitely sneaks up on you, that’s for sure. It’s like one minute you’re at school and the next you’re saying goodbye to your 20’s! I’ve been a bit nervous about turning 30, not because I feel old or anything like that, but because everyone else makes such a big deal about turning 30. You kind of get it into your head that it’s all downhill after 30 and you start to get fat and lose your youthful glow and all that crap.

My birthday was on Tuesday, and as I typically had, it was just going to be a usual post Monday. No party, no gathering, just a few ‘happy birthday’ messages from my family and my loved ones. Funny enough, I did not expect it to be grand. I did have a bucket list that I wanted to do before turning 30, maybe that list itself is dumped in some bucket at my home.

I did catch enough time during the day to reflect on the decade which had flown by rather quickly.

At the start of my 20’s, I was money-hungry and success driven. I wanted to climb the corporate ladder and earn as much money as possible so I could spend it on beautiful and expensive clothes and shoes, have a luxury car and a very gorgeous house decked out with plush furnishings. Like most other STEM graduates in India, I too had the American Dream. I was confident. I knew what I wanted to do, what I was looking for, and what my target was. I had accomplished a lot, and I was making my parents proud. I was single and I knew I wanted to stay single. Getting married and having kids? Never my priority.

As a society, we have created this (completely false) notion that life ends after 30.

I feel like I am entering a decade where I can finally be unapologetically and authentically myself. Instead of thinking that my life has ended, I believe it has only just begun.

To be honest, I view my 30s as an extension of my 20s, but with more financial stability, increased confidence, and better decision-making skills. It’s a milestone to celebrate and embrace with open arms.

At 30, I’ve come to realize the importance of meaningful connections and nurturing relationships — and not just the romantic ones. We now seek friendships that inspire us, challenge us, and bring out the best in us. We recognize the value of support systems and the strength that comes from community.

Not having it all figured out doesn’t mean we lack direction or purpose. Instead, it allows us to approach life with curiosity and openness. We can navigate uncharted territories, take detours, and learn valuable lessons along the way. These uncertain moments give us the opportunity to adapt, learn, and grown.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading.

Today I am saying goodbye to my 20s and hello to my 30s! If you had asked me ten years ago how I would feel about turning thirty I would have been hesitant and probably a little horrified at the thought of turning 3-0. Birthdays always tend to evoke a bit of reflection for me. I enjoy reflecting on the hardships, the accomplishments & all the things that got me to where I am today. Although there were many great accomplishments, there were hardships along the way, too. To celebrate I wanted to share 30 things I have learned in 30 years with you all! 

30 Things I have learned in 30 years

1. It’s ok to say no. And it’s also ok if saying “no” disappoints someone else. I used to think saying “yes” to everything made me a better person. And I learned that saying “yes” doesn’t make me a better person, in fact, it takes away from me being my best self. 

2. Some friendships are lifelong & others are “situationships.” There are friends that you know are for life & there’s friends that come into your life during a season. There’s nothing wrong with either type of friendship, but it’s important to know that not every friendship is forever and it’s ok to let certain ones go. 

3. Learn to apologize when you’re wrong. And learn to forgive others. I’ll admit, I can be stubborn and hold a grudge, but Life is too short for that. Now I’m quick to apologize and more eager to forgive. 

4. It’s ok to grow, evolve & change. No one is ever going to remain the same. It’s human nature to grow, change & evolve in life.

5. Making mistakes is normal… and they’re only mistakes if you don’t learn from them. I learned that it’s ok to make mistakes as long as you learn from them along the way. It happens to everyone. 

6. Value your time & your worth. My time is valuable, not free. I know my strengths and those are worth something. 

7. Not everyone is going to like you…and that’s ok. Focus on those people that do like you and want to be in your presence. 

8. You can always ask for help, even when it’s hard. I am a very independent person and it’s very hard for me to ask for help. There have been a few situations that I have gotten myself into that could have easily been alleviated had I just asked for help when I needed it. You live and you learn. 

9. Social media can be toxic. Take a break when you need it. I always try to remind myself that social media is everyone’s highlight reel. I know I don’t share my darkest days with my followers and other people don’t either! Take a break when you need to – it’ll be good for your mental health.

10. Quality over quantity. This goes for basically everything in life, seriously. 

11. Pick your battles. Let some things roll off your back!

12. You can’t set a timeline for your life. Growing up I had this “ideal” timeline in my head of how I thought my life was going to play out. All I can say is Thank God that’s not how it happened. Life has unfolded exactly how it should, when it should. 

13. It’s ok to open up and be vulnerable, you don’t always have to hide that part of you. It can be intimidating to let your guard down and open up, but do it with those you trust. It will bring a better bond and a better understanding of each other. 

14. Don’t let others’ opinions of you diminish your shine. Don’t do that – letting their words in only diminishes your shine.  

15. You can’t measure love. There are few things best left without a metric. 

16. It’s ok to not have it all figured out. I mean does anyone!? Enough said. 

17. Take a risk, what’s scary is often worthwhile. Looking back, some of the biggest risks have provided the biggest rewards. 

18. True friends will celebrate your success & support you in your failures. Hold those friends close to you, you need each other more than you know! 

19. Some days just suck & it’s ok to wallow in it sometimes. But don’t wallow too much because it can put you in a dark place. Allow yourself to feel the emotions and then move on when you can!

20. Don’t underestimate yourself, even when others do. You are a gem & you are capable of many things. Remember that!

21. Be present. Don’t let memories fall to the wayside because you were too busy behind your phone or computer screen. 

22. Stop trying to impress others. It never works out well. Ever. Be yourself and the people who love you for who you are. 

23. Worrying never helps the situation. Ever. Does it help? Heck no! Is the situation ever worst case? Hardly ever. Stop worrying and work through it instead!

24. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Allow yourself grace. Talk yourself up. Be on your own team.

25. Family is everything. Hold them close and let them know how much you love and appreciate them.

26. Get outside of your comfort zone. It’s not as scary as you think. You never know until you try. 

27. Don’t speak or act when you’re angry or emotional. Nothing good ever comes from acting on emotions. Give the situation time to diffuse itself. Decide when to speak or act once you have had a moment to reflect thoughtfully on the situation. Nine times out of ten the situation isn’t as bad as you thought when you were emotional.

28. Do what makes you happy. But also, be smart about it. It’s simple as that. You can be happy, but you also need to think things through!

29. Never stop learning. Everyone has a story that you can learn from. You’re never too old to learn from someone else. People aren’t always what they seem, take the time to listen to someone’s story.

30. Invest in yourself. Part of being your best self is making sure that you are investing in yourself. Take those moments of self-care, do what you enjoy & invest in making you an even better version of yourself. it will make a big difference.

It took me a few days to process what these lessons really mean but I think I know now. It means I’m ready. I feel at peace with all the hardships of the last 10-15 years, I’ve forgiven myself for the mistakes and am thankful for the lessons. I’ve accepted who I am and I’m proud of myself – a far cry from how I used to feel.

So, turning 30? Bring it on.

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